Some people seem to just not want to grow up. What causes this behavior? Why are so many people insisting on behaving like kids and abjectly refusing to mature? A person can have unbridled joy at any age, and can delve into whatever pursuits make their souls shine. They just have to balance that with life responsibilities, and that balance is what many of them balk at.
The phone is ringing again at the posh day spa where Betsy Patterson ushers in an elegant new client. Then, self-assuredly, she leads the way back to her high-tech facial treatment room. This irony is not lost on the vibrant, dark-haired beauty who twenty years ago was a divorced, unemployed high school dropout forced to move back home with her parents after her second child was born. My Dad would always have to pay the rest. Some of the screw ups scared her. Eventually things did get better for Betsy, a transformation she credits in part to having to care for her two young sons. That sense of responsibility grew even greater when her second son was diagnosed with ADHD.
Failure to Launch, Part 2: How Adult Children Work the “Parent System”
In part 2 of their series on adult children, Kim Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner explain why some kids choose to stay home instead of launching into the world. Kim and Marney are experts in the areas of parenting, child behavior problems, O. They are also the co—creators of Life Over the Influence , a new program that helps families with loved ones who are struggling with substance abuse issues. In the part 1 of this series on adult children living at home , we looked at how society has changed in its views and approaches to parenting. Over the past few generations, society has moved from caring for our children to caretaking— and many parents, for different reasons, find themselves solving problems for their children long into adulthood.
He won't respect any of our house rules. He doesn't clean up after himself. He just lounges around the house and never lifts a finger to do anything. He isn't even civil to us.